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Someone asked me the other day about my love life. I laughed, and said that I’ve been celibate for so long now, I’m pretty sure I’ve been revirginized. That’s a thing, right? I’m not dating, not looking for a special someone, not lonely in the least. This is the longest I’ve been single in my life, and I’m OK with that. I’m not good at marriage. Perhaps if I had read Mort Fertel’s “7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage” I might have been able to make one of them last.
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I’ve been married 3 times and divorced 3 times, so I’m successful at starting relationships and sealing the deal, but evidently I have a problem sustaining them.
Did I give up too easily? Absolutely. There’s no great reason for it either. I had an extraordinarily good childhood. My parents are wonderful, and they’ve been together since they were teenagers. My role models weren’t quitters. But I sure am. I will cut and run at the first sign of trouble. In fact, even the one time my heart was broken I was the one to leave first.
When I was younger all I craved was adventure, and I was attracted to men who were willing to take big risks with me. Now that I’m a mother, my requirements in a partner have changed. I don’t have time for drama, I’m already dealing with the big emotions of a 6 year old girl. If I let someone into our lives, he will have to bring joy, a great deal of it, and nothing else.
My ideal mate will:
Desire me greatly, but not be needy. I want to know that I’m wanted. I want messages, emails, texts, postcards, letting me know that I’m on his mind even though he’s far, far away. I’d love to hear that he can’t wait to get his hands on me, but also that he craves my company.
Not live nearby. He would come into town about 4 times a year for about 5-7 days and would be totally into me, then have to rush back to work before I started to get annoyed by the disruption.
I understand that this is unrealistic, but it’s where I am at the moment. I’m an entrepreneur and a single parent, I just don’t have the time or energy for more that that.
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